FLIRTING (day of rant: February 26th, 2025)

Flirting, and understanding when someone is flirting with me is sooooooo hard. For context, I'm quite neurodivergent, so maybe that's what makes it quite difficult for me to read what people mean what they say, but I really can't ever tell when someone is complimenting me because I'm a friend and when they are actually flirting with me. I also don't get how to flirt with people in general because I don't really like subtlety when it comes to talking to people. When it comes to writing, I really enjoy when a story is written with subtle undertones (yes, I know, putting "subtle" in front "undertones" is redundant, but I don't care) and has an underlying message and foreshadowing and all that, but when it comes to conversations, I just wish people would say what they mean.

I think this this also comes with the WLW experience I guess, as a new trans woman, I haven't really experienced this too much, but I feel like I get more compliments and I don't know what to do about them! Like, some compliments I'm like, yeah, a friend says that to me to make me feel good, same as I would, but when someone says something about me is "cute"... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? Like, I would be scared to tell someone I think something about them (their makeup, outfit, etc.) is cute because I feel like that's a clear indication of me being attracted to them (maybe it's just cuz I'm bi and I find A LOT of people pretty), but when someone says it to me, I'm just like, "Do you mean it as a sign you find me somewhat attractive, or are you just being friendly?".

It's probably the latter, but I mean, I wish there was some kind of guide, like something like this but serious.

I don't know, it's probably just me. Anyway, girls pretty, boys pretty, nonbinary people pretty, especially YOU, the person reading this!

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